You've Been Holding It Together. Who's Holding Space for You?
Individual online therapy in Oregon and Washington for overachievers, people pleasers, and those ready to stop carrying everything alone.
Therapy That Goes Beyond Just Getting Through the Day
Maybe you're managing anxiety, feeling burned out, struggling with perfectionism, or realizing that constantly putting everyone else first is taking a toll. You've gotten good at pushing through, but you're ready for something to actually change.
Individual therapy at Whole Worth Counseling is about exploring what's underneath those patterns. We'll look at the experiences, relationships, and expectations that shaped them, including the cultural and systemic pressures that can make slowing down, setting boundaries, or prioritizing yourself feel especially complicated.
My approach is person-centered and relational. That means we work collaboratively, making room for your identity, your experiences, and your definition of what a meaningful life looks like. We're not just looking for ways to help you get through another difficult week. We're making space for lasting change.
Different Experiences. Different Needs. A Place for All of It.
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Burnout, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing
For the overachievers, the strong friends, and the ones who somehow became responsible for everyone else's needs. We'll explore the pressure to always do more, the guilt that comes with slowing down, and what it might look like to stop measuring your worth by how much you give.
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Race, Culture & Identity
For Black, Brown, biracial, and multiracial individuals navigating identity, belonging, racial stress, and the expectations that come from living between cultures or moving through systems that don't always see you fully.
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Single Parenthood & Finding Yourself Again
For single parents balancing the demands of raising children, making decisions, managing expectations, and trying to remember that they're a whole person outside of parenting. You deserve support that makes room for your needs, too.
So, What Does Therapy Actually Look Like?
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Sessions 1–3: Getting to Know You
Assessment, diagnosis (for insurance clients), and collaborative treatment planning.
We build a shared understanding of what brings you in and where you hope to go. -
Sessions 4–8: Deepening Understanding
We build relational safety, explore your patterns, and “slice thin” — getting clearer on who you are now, the stories that shaped you, and who you want to become.
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Sessions 8–19: Active, Intentional Work
We work toward your goals with curiosity and intention. This phase often includes trying new skills, strengthening connection (with yourself or others), and experimenting with new patterns.
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Session 20 and Beyond: Continued Growth & Re-Evaluation
Therapy doesn’t suddenly end here. We check in about progress, adjust goals when needed, and continue working at a depth and rhythm that feels right for you. Many clients stay long-term; others come and go based on life transitions. Both are valid.
Questions You Might Be Asking Yourself
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You can be successful, dependable, and the person everyone counts on while still feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or exhausted. You don't have to wait until everything falls apart to deserve support. Sometimes being able to keep going is exactly what makes it harder to recognize how much you're carrying.
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That's okay. You don't need to show up with a perfectly organized explanation of what's happening or a five-point plan for fixing it. Maybe you're tired, frustrated, or noticing that the same patterns keep showing up. We can start there and figure out the rest together.
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If you've spent years being the dependable one, setting boundaries or prioritizing your own needs can feel selfish, even when you're exhausted. That guilt doesn't necessarily mean you're doing something wrong. Therapy can help you understand where those expectations came from, how they've shaped your relationships, and what it might look like to care for yourself without feeling responsible for everyone else's reactions.
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Therapy isn't going to eliminate racism, discrimination, systemic inequities, or the expectations other people place on you. And I'm certainly not going to pretend that changing your mindset makes those realities disappear. What we can do is explore how those experiences affect you, identify where you have choices, and find ways to protect your well-being without placing the responsibility for fixing an unfair world on your shoulders.
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Sometimes the patterns we develop are responses to the environments, relationships, and systems we've had to navigate. What helped you survive or succeed in one situation might be exhausting you in another. Therapy gives us room to question what's been expected of you, recognize what isn't yours to carry, and explore what changes you want to make for yourself, while acknowledging that you aren't solely responsible for the dynamics or circumstances affecting your life.
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There's nothing wrong with enjoying helping others, being dependable, or finding meaning in showing up for the people you care about. Those can be parts of yourself that you genuinely value. And that's what can make change complicated. You might love being helpful while also feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or resentful when there's little room left for your own needs. Therapy isn't about asking you to stop caring or become someone you're not. It's about exploring how to hold on to the parts of yourself you love while making sure there's room for you, too.
A Note If You’re Using Insurance
Insurance can make therapy more accessible, but it does bring another “voice” into the room.
Here’s what that means:
Insurance requires a diagnosis and wants treatment goals framed through symptom reduction, even if our work is broader or more relational.
They may limit the number of sessions or what they consider “medically necessary.”
Confidentiality is more limited, because insurance companies can request access to your clinical records.
You will still get my full, authentic therapeutic style — person-centered, relational, and emotionally attuned.
Just know that insurance introduces certain requirements that shape how some parts of therapy are documented or authorized.
We can talk together about what that means for your unique goals.